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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What are your husband's main skills and what kind of work environment does he naturally desire?[/quote]

+1 OP just wants to complain about their spouse but not give details that would allow people to give advice.  I call troll.
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If you read my OP youd know I came here looking to hear from those who have been in my situation and hear how it went for them, find support from then etc. I got a lot of great suggestions and am not looking for sprcific job search advice for my husband. [/quote]

Somebody here might interview and hire him ... But solving the problem isn't really desired.[/quote]

Yeah, OP, I think the job search is EVERYTHING.  That and why he isnt interviewing well.  Is he sloppy, bad hair cut, shoes, shirt, needs interview coaching, etc.  It's time for all hands on deck[/quote]

Good morning, OP! I'm the PP who has BTDT, pretended to be strong for DH and cried in the car. The advice this PP gives is practical and very good. Granted, easier to do at the beginning than when you're deep into the money drain. But still. I actually pushed DH into getting Botox. We also spent the money on good interviewing clothes, shoes. Made sure he had a good haircut, eyebrows not crazy, ear hair, nose hair all trimmed. (It's amazing how little things like that can really detract.) Shallow, sure, but all so that he would present younger and energetic.

If you don't have the money for a coach, then set up a camera and do pretend interviews showing only him. I know in some management training courses they do this so the person can see their own little tics. Fiddle with hair. Moving hands. Whatever it is. This might help your DH to see if he is coming across as sloppy or depressed or low even just low energy.

Maybe with some proactive steps, you both can feel a little more hopeful.

I hope you feel better this morning![/quote]
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This is spot on. We have people who come in to interview who may be qualified but just seem stale and frumpy from being out of the workforce. Make sure he looks polished. Exercising everyday should be a priority, both for his mental health and to keep up his appearance. 
He can find tons of interview help online and should be practicing. He also needs to keep active on LinkedIn - post something every day or few days. Like other people’s posts and comment on them. Make himself active on any page of someone involved in his industry. He should  also reach out to as many headhunters as he can find. One of them will click and take him on. 
Finally, so he doesn’t look out of the look in the industry, he should register a consulting firm. Make a professional website (again he can do this himself or very cheaply), use the email to correspond to that website, order cards, etc. On his website, he can post case studies or whatever w/o using firm names talking about what he did in his previous roles. He needs to get his foot in the door, even doing a minor consulting role somewhere from home and things will snowball from there if he can be aggressive enough. [/quote]

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