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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What are your husband's main skills and what kind of work environment does he naturally desire?[/quote]

+1 OP just wants to complain about their spouse but not give details that would allow people to give advice.  I call troll.
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If you read my OP youd know I came here looking to hear from those who have been in my situation and hear how it went for them, find support from then etc. I got a lot of great suggestions and am not looking for sprcific job search advice for my husband. [/quote]

I totally understand this.  My spouse and I both lost our jobs years ago.

We took whatever we could get and lived on basically nothing.  We both ended up changing careers and both took a step down. It was tough, but we did it.

We had to move and change how we lived.  Now we worked our way up, own a beautiful (small) home, travel, etc.  BUT we both got our next careers through our network. My spouse had a former boss contact him about a role and we moved for it.  When we arrived I networked and met people in our new area and got my job through one of those connections.  I was clear I was looking (but not obnoxious) and people were willing to help.  I refused to live in the "poor me" mentality and took advice and ideas from anyone who was willing.  We continued to live like we had no money so we saved and invested.  My husband eventually took a very hardship post and moved away in part so we could save more $.  We did what we had to do for a few years (including working multiple jobs).

I have friends now who have been laid off and I am doing what I can to help them.  Make connections, use my network, etc.  Don't be embarrassed.  This is not the time to "keep up with the neighbors" and pretend like everything is okay, because it is not.

Being a teacher is commendable.  Good for you.  But if you need to make more $ there are ways to do it.  Many districts will help pay for continued education (if you stay).  Look into special ed, Assistant Principal, etc roles.  Tutor.  Teach a sport after school.  Work at an after care and see if your kids can get in for free or very discounted.  Waitress or Instacart on weekends until your spouse has a job.  Have you talked to friends/ neighbors?

I agree with others that something must be happening in the interview.  He should look clean and showered, dress for the job you want not the job you have.  Does he exercise?  Maybe go on walks together or do free workout class trials.  Your husband should temp.  I know many people who got FT roles from temping.  Will give him something to do in the day, something to add to his resume and maybe he will get a FT gig out of it.  Also volunteer, why doesn't he volunteer 10 hours a week?  Network, meet new people, etc, might be good for him.

This is a reminder to all of us to have an emergency fund and if you suddenly double your income to not spend it!  Save that $, invest it, stay in your small house, etc at least for a couple years until you have money squirreled away for a rainy day.  [/quote]

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