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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sooo many things.
Mother would walk around the house bare chested because she was hot when my brother wasn’t around. My father was sometimes around though, and I was grossed out as well.
At least he wore his pants.

There’s just too much to list.
After my mother died I got a glimpse into my dad’s disgusting habits because I started coming over to help and later moved him closer to me and now visit regularly. He had this one bowl he eats his slop from. Slop as in mixing everything together - soup, some grains, veggies, whatever he has that day. He then leaves the empty bowl on the table and reuses it without washing. When I visit I make him wash it of course but he doesn’t do it when he is alone.

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Why do you think it was gross your mom sometimes walked around topless at home? As someone who breastfed, this doesn't seem like a big deal.

The food bowl thing with your dad is kind of gross, but only because he's not washing that bowl regularly. I don't think it's gross to combine grains and veggies to eat them. I also think you calling it "slop" is making it sound grosser than it is. It just sounds like food to me.

The judgment you have here seems deeply misplaced.[/quote]

When your kids are WAY beyond breastfeeding years, yes it’s incredibly inappropriate to walk around topless. No one wants to see that. [/quote]

...what is the problem? This seems oddly prudish. We're talking about someone in their own home, with immediate family. Breasts are not genitals.

And where do you draw the line? What if someone on a hot day wears a light cotton dress around the house without a bra. Is that "incredibly inappropriate"?

I'm honestly baffled by this one. There's nothing sexual or unhygienic about this. No one is objecting to a dad walking around without his shirt off. I'm not trolling, I truly don't get this.[/quote]

In American society, breasts are private.[/quote]

In many societies breasts are private. And in most societies, females do not typically walk around completely topless in front of their family members. (With the exception being nudists which is an entirely different topic.)

Would it be OK for a teen girl to go topless in front of her father and brothers? If PP is "baffled" why this is not acceptable there may be something psychological going on. [/quote]

PP here and the example you give us specific -- I'm guessing that scenario would make all family members uncomfortable so they wouldn't do it.

But I'm Swedish and my husband is Korean, and it's not considered weird in either of our cultures for women to be topless around young kids (pre-puberty), especially girls. There's nothing sexual or "psychological" about it. It's also normal for my DD (who is 7) to come into my bathroom while I'm showering if she needs to, and vice versa.

Teens become more private with their bodies, that's normal. And also more shy about their families. Aa kids express needs for privacy, we give it to them. But for instance it would be normal in my house for me to walk through the house topless while getting ready in the morning, or for DD to be naked around the house before or after a shower or while getting ready for bed.

I genuinely don't get what the big deal is. This is also how I was raised and it's not "gross" or traumatic to me.[/quote]

But you're Swedish. That's YOUR culture and your norm. It's not the norm here in the U.S. and is a big deal for many people. That's what you need to "get." It's one thing to share a bathroom with a parent of the same sex but a 7 year old daughter who walks "around the house" nude is not the norm. If she were to do that at a friend's house it would definitely be cause for concern. [/quote]

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