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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If the parent wants to SAH, then that is definitely more valuable. But not every parent is happy in this role, and that matters.[/quote]

This isn’t borne out by data. The crippling effect of college debt is.[/quote]

It’s a bit complicated.  Yes there’s  data that women with working moms end up earning more than women with SAH moms, but there’s also data on the negative effects of early daycare (especially in the first year and/or long hours) on a significant number of kids.

So not exactly clear cut.

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How could you have data to show you whether kids raised by SAHP are happier in life? There is no concrete evidence but that doesn’t mean it isn’t likely true.[/quote]
There is data saying the opposite actually. “Adult children of working mothers are said to be higher achievers at work and are happier”.[/quote]

Therefore what? No children of highly educated SAHPs who left their careers to putt their all into the home front temporarily can succeed? We know that's not true. Not all working parent and not all at home parents are cut from the same mold.[/quote]
Data is data, extrapolate how you want. But don’t say you’re staying home because data says your kids will be happier; no need to lie about why you’d rather not work. [/quote]

DP here. Some of us stay home because we want to care for our children ourselves. The end. That's the whole reason. [/quote]
And that’s a wonderful reason. What children are you caring for the very very many hours your children are in school for?[/quote]

Do you think the work of parenting and household mgmt disappears when kids are in school? Do you have kids?

Also, let’s just look at the actual time breakdown. 
my elementary kids are at school for 6 hours a day. Each day doing school drop off/pick up takes about 40 minutes so now we’re down to 5 hrs 20 minutes a day that they’re in school and that’s my “free time” which is spent:
—Yes, doing chores and running errands about 50% of the time (this is just for basic daily or at least bi-weekly chores like laundry, dishes, meal prep/cooking, yard work, and basic errands like grocery shopping and doesn’t account for the chores and errands that come up less often like shopping for clothes or bday gifts or doing deep cleaning or home maintenance projects or car repairs)
—Volunteering at the kids’ school about 20% the time (I volunteer in each of their classrooms every week and in the lunchroom every week and sometimes also in the front office at their school)
—time for myself about 30% of the time. This is when I exercise, read, meet w friends, have a phone call w family, get a hair cut, etc. since I do those things when kids are at school, I don’t have to do them at other times and can fully focus on childcare/parenting

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