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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm grateful for the changes AA made on my life but there are other ways to sobriety.  I honestly have no clue how people attend so many meetings without getting bored out of their minds hearing the same people talk over and over.  There are lots of people there that have absolutely nothing to say about life unless it's about alcohol or their alcoholism.

Maybe he can drop the 1 out or 2 meetings on any particular day and see if there's anything else out there.[/quote]

Yes, at 18 months, this guy should be cutting back on some meetings and paying attention to his responsibilities at home.  90 in 90 is great for newcomers, but the point of AA is being able to live your life and take care of your responsibilities and being happy.  If you're spending that time in meetings, you're not living your life. [/quote]

90 in 90 is for single people who have no support network or any kind -- no family, no church, no healthy non-alcoholic friends
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90 in 90 is for newcomers and those coming back from a relapse. If they had sufficient support to prevent alcoholism (a unicorn of a concept, btw), they wouldn't have an alcohol use issue. The purpose of 90 in 90 is the same as immersion language learning, which it essentially is. You want the newcomer to be in constant contact with the program and fellow alcoholics, regularly reminded that they have a problem for which there is a solution. There are online zoom meetings around the clock; you don't need to do this in person. It's also an easy way to make contact with other people in recovery. As nice as your "non-alcoholic friends" may be, and as much as they legitimately may want to help, if you haven't experienced this problem, your "help" isn't likely to be very helpful, and might even make things worse. I want a doctor/pilot/mechanic with experience, not just book learning. The same applies for finding a sponsor or having a sober sibling/friend in recovery.

There's a massive amount of relapse-prevention seen in those who do the 90/90 vs. those who try to brute force new habits with their same support systems. Family, church and non-alcoholic friends are lovely, but they don't automatically prevent relapse. A roster of fellow addicts you can call when you feel a slip coming on can, as can the accountability of knowing you're gonna claim your seat in ____ hours, so you'd better stay sober for this 24.

It's not a thing because we like numbers and AA jargon. It's a suggested recovery tool because it works (if you work it).

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