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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have a 3 month old. Which means your wife is working basically 24 hours a day and is exhausted all the time.[b] “I helped out” tells me that you don’t feel full ownership of the situation with the kids and the house[/b], and that’s what she’s reacting to.

The snow day thing may seem unreasonable, but she’s reacting to this: there was a family disruption and her day got 1000% harder and your day stayed basically the same. Ask yourself how often that happens.

You not ending work at a consistent time shows you’re prioritizing yourself over your wife and your kid - regularly. As someone with a big fancy job who was there to pick up my kids on time 100% of the time, I know it’s possible to end work on time consistently. You just say “oops gotta run Fred - kid pickup time! Call you tomorrow!”

Also, ask yourself how much harder your life has gotten when the second kid came 3 months ago. Your wife’s life got a lot harder. Are you doing at least 50% of the household chores - including keeping track of all of the crap that goes into that? From your post, doesn’t sound like it.

Your wife is feeling resentful. I recommend caring that she feels that way. [/quote]

Why should he? He's working, she's on maternity leave. When my husband went back to work and I was still home with our twins I moved to the guest room to sleep so he could get a solid night of sleep since he had to go to work all day. Of course I was tired by the time he came home and he did then pick up and take over with the kids/dogs/house, but I was aware of the fact that he hadn't been sitting at a spa all day. [/quote]

He should feel full ownership because they are his children and it’s his house. And not caring that your wife is stressed caring for a newborn is not exactly the route to marital bliss. [/quote]

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