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[quote=Anonymous]Some people here are being manipulative by calling the OP, "transactional" for wanting reciprocation. Everybody whether they admit it or not wants reciprocation in some way or another.

Unless you are wearing diapers and drinking your dinner through a nipple, then you have an obligation to reciprocate to your fellow human being. Also we are a social species and we have evolved on the basis of mutual exchange. When someone in your circle does not reciprocate it sends a signal on a primal perhaps unconscious level that this person is going to be a drain on resources.

I wouldn't be surprised if some of those who defend non-reciprocation feel a little bit guilty for their lack of contribution, and their triggered because the OP words hit a little bit too close to home.  Or maybe some of them are just plain narcissistic and feel no empathy for the time and effort other people gave to something that they took the pleasure in enjoying.

And sure some here might have justifiable reasons for why they can't reciprocate the invitations but upon closer consideration, it doesn't make any sense. There are many other ways to show gratitude besides direct one for one transactions that don't require money or time. Maybe help clean up after the party or maybe offer to help in the preparation. There are millions of ways to give back in a meaningful if one is merely willing to put in the time and thought.

Also nobody here is an eternal well spring of generosity. This idea of unconditional kindness that some people place on other is what allows entitled people to continue their game. I am not having it.

My suggestion to the OP is straight up ask those people if they wouldn't mind returning the favor sometime. Bring it up in a friendly casual non-threatening way, and see how they take it. If they suddenly become self righteous, well that's your answer. [/quote]

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