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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You think you are "right" about transactional reciprocity being the basis of human relationships - it is FOR YOU, but certainly not for me.  I don't expect my kids to cook me dinner or care for me in my old age, or anything else for that matter.  I wanted THEM and I do it out of love, not expectation.

I highly suggest you invest in a tutor for reading comprehension skills.  I don't think you understand what I wrote or it's meaning.  Or don't, I'm not your friend and don't care what you do.  [/quote]

You’re basically saying that you are somehow different than those transactional bean counters who need reciprocity in their relationships. I’m merely pointing out that even in your example of a parent-child relationship, there is self interest.

You like to think you do it out of “love,” but really, this is all just programming via evolution to get your genes passed on. Presuming that you did not adopt your children, you did not choose to have the specific child-beings that you ended up with because you loved THEM. They didn’t even exist. What did exist is your idea of child, which was most likely modeled after yourself and/or your partner.

Also, it is apparent to me that you must think that the people who care about reciprocity in their relationships have a literal tally system or perhaps even use actual beans to keep track of contributions to a relationship. Let me tell you that most likely, these people,  rely on emotions just like you to gauge whether their relationships are satisfying. It could feel like anger or a sunken feeling in their stomach that indicates that they’re being taken advantage of or maybe they feel a general sadness and sense of being unloved.

So come off it. We are all so very human. [/quote]

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