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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have seen a generational shift in this attitude. It seems like having a long term SAH princess wife was a huge goal and status symbol in the older generations, but Gen X and especially Millennial men resent it. Not saying every man under about 50 feels this way, but significantly more do than Boomers and up. [/quote]

The other thing is that younger women have changed. They are realising it is rewarding to have a successful career. Also older women who have made it professionally often have a lot more free time but are also paid a lot. So are able to take on things like going on boards and networking with other successful women. The SAHMs that haven’t worked for 30 years by this point can’t access this world[/quote]

It's the opposite.  Younger women realized that majority of women trying to have fulfilling successful careers and functioning family/households fail and are miserable and don't want this.  They see their mothers unhappy when they failed to "lean in" or got ousted after giving birth and wanting some work-life balance or had to resort to middling jobs just to pay the bills.  They saw them tired and irritable, juggling messy homes and sleep training their infants and offloading their toddlers to the uneducated barely English speaking foreign nannies, or schlepping them to the dodgy daycares barely awake on their way to a meaningless middling job. For every woman who is a C level exec, a partner or an owner of a successful company there are many thousands whose lives reflect what I said above.  It's the truth.  I am no SAHM,  I am an equal earner with my DH having contributed half of our NW. [/quote]

I’m around Gen Z women a lot and don’t see this at all. Don’t forget that for every SAHW married to a wealthy man who adores her, there are hundreds married to men who are broke, abuse them, keep money from them, cheat on them, treat them like a servant, etc. Housewives in the 1950s were heavily medicated because it’s such a dreary existence.

What I do see young women doing:
- deciding to be child free and/or not get married
- have much higher standards for men, they need to have a good job, understand equitable division of labor, and be emotionally intelligent 
- focusing more on friendships and hobbies that being fulfillment, like travel. 
- demanding more from employers. They job hop and will work at a job just long enough to get experience and move elsewhere
- holding much firmer boundaries with employers, such as not working off-hours

My company has altered its policies and practices to accommodate Gen Z. We use a lot of positive reinforcement, train people well, provide higher compensation, and don’t care what hours or how long people work (if you can get the job done in 20 hours a week instead of 40, awesome). It’s a welcome change and I’m glad we have bright, young women who demand more. [/quote]

After complaining for the better part of two years that Gen Z grads are difficult to work with, bosses are no longer all talk, no action: Now they’re rapidly firing young workers who aren’t up to scratch just months after hiring them.

According to a report, six in 10 employers say they have already sacked some of the Gen Z workers they hired fresh out of college in recent months.

Intelligent.com, a platform dedicated to helping young professionals navigate the future of work, surveyed nearly 1,000 U.S. leaders. It found that the class of 2024’s shortcomings will impact future grads.
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