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[quote]As others have said, not so much settled as accepted trade offs. DH isn’t someone who endlessly makes me laugh or engages in deep conversation. He’s quiet and doesn’t really fill my bucket in terms of verbal interaction. Attractive but not the most communicative or attentive sex partner and a bit lower drive than me. I knew this all going in and had some nagging concerns but let the fact that we got along well and he seemed an awesome, solid human win out.

On balance, seventeen years in our marriage is pretty good. We share values and parenting together is easy. We like each other’s families and friends. He’s always kind, amazingly supportive, and does more than his fair share at home. I still find him attractive, appreciative the life we’ve built together, and know he’ll always have my back. We make awesome kids and have had a lot of fun raising them together. I get sad that we don’t talk, banter and laugh more but have purposely cultivated other relationships (friends, siblings) to fill that need and try to focus on the good things we DO have together. And on the flip side, we never fight. Sex happens about once a week - not earth-shattering, but enjoyable. Closing in on 50, I feel like we’re doing alright.
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