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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok so... $250 an hour and you're available to work like 9 to 2 pm? And you need lunch and some time for administering your practice, so you're billing like 4 hours a day, assuming you have enough clients? So 20 hours a week at $250 an hour is $5000 a week, *50 weeks a year, you're grossing $250,000. But then you have your work expenses. And federal, state, and local taxes. So really, your take-home is more like $150,000 a year. Which isn't that much when you have three kids and are paying for daycare and all their activities plus retirement and college savings.

You need to see a financial pro and make sure you have a truly accurate read on your situation.[/quote]

I plan on asking for him to fully fund [b]health insurance for me[/b] and the kids until they're 25, their college and their activities. He's overly generous with the kids, buys them everything they want to make up for working so much I think. If anything I'm worried about him doubling down on that and me being the one who can't give them things. [/quote]

NO! You need to disengage from this man, you do not want him to be paying your health insurance! Your marriage is ending, you need more separateness. Stop thinking of yourselves as a family unit, that's wishful thinking and it won't serve you well.

Get whatever you're "asking" in writing, and get it placed in a trust. Remember, he could die. He could lose his job. He could make someone else pregnant, he could remarry and wife #2 will press her interests very hard. He could get mad at you and stop paying child support and then you'd have to spend money taking him to court.

He's buying them toys yay how wonderful, doesn't mean he'll pay for college. Totally different dynamic.[/quote]

This!!! Listen to this person, OP!  Sure he can promise to pay your health insurance all he wants, until he gets remarried in 2 years and his new wife shuts it down (as she should, because it's too enmeshed).  You need to get a lawyer and put something like that in writing.  And totally agree about college.  This man could remarry, have new kids with his new wife, and flake on his current kids with you.  Hopefully not, but, the future is long.  He hasn't proven himself to be a great husband, no?  So don't expect him to suddenly be this magically good ex husband.  He is promising you things now to make it easier for him to get divorced from you for as little cost, and as little trouble, as possible.  As soon as you're divorced for a little while,  unless these things are nailed down WITH A LAWYER, he will stop. [/quote]

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