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So now you are also blaming parents for genetics? Most people with adult children didn’t have access to any knowledge about it when they conceived, and in case you don’t know, there is such a thing as mutation. Many families with 2+ children have vastly different outcomes. Same parents, same environment. Yet some children will be emotionally healthy, content, successful as they define it. Others may be quite opposite.

You have rigid, misogynistic, and provably false beliefs. Of course there are very bad parents out there. But not every adult child with a bad outcome is because of parenting. Not every adult child with a good outcome is because of parenting. You hate your mother and project that experience to everyone, you assume every woman here is same age and didn’t work. I won’t bother replying to you anymore because you are so divorced from reality and unable to acknowledge that your experience is not applicable to everyone else’s. [/quote]

Well, I'm not "blaming" you for your genetics, but you do pass it on to your kids, whether you like it or not. You may call me rigid or misogynistic or whatever else names you like to call people whose opinions you don't like, because you don't like to take responsibility for your actions, I couldn't care less. I hate the gaslighting you do here and I'm going to make it clear to you that I know your kind. Current research states what is actually common sense. We're born with a given potential determined by genetics. How much of that potential is realized depends on the environment. In other words, talented or smart people born into a harsh environment (or an environment that will not nurture their abilities) will not reach their potential. On the other hand, if your genetics has put a cap on your abilities, no matter the environment, you'll not overcome your genetics. In fact a child's educational attainment is correlated to their biological mother's educational attainment, even if they were adopted at birth. And since you like personal digs: of course I hate my mother, you think you insult me pointing it out, but not at all. Your children likely hate you as well. I was lucky to have my dad and outside mentors and made it, and made it far, but she screw up my brother for life (my dad was not around due to his job). And my mother is not a horrible person, there are millions like her out there, vain, selfish, lazy, likes to get taken care of instead of taking care, considers kids an inconvenience, calls names and belittles anyone who she thinks is beneath her, kind of like you. Parents have a lot of power over what happens to their children (born normal, healthy, average children) even if you don't like to hear it. In other words, if they didn't make it, it's very likely due to something negative that happened (often parental abuse or neglect, doesn't have to be criminal, it's easy to kill a child's self-esteem, less often abuse by another adult/child i.e. environment, or can be, you know, war). If they did make it, it's because of someone's positive influence: be it you or the other parent, grandparent or a relative, even a friend, teacher, and/or they found mentors/lucky circumstances that made it possible. None if it means that two kids from the same family will have the same outcomes, even if parents were nurturing. Genes express differently and the environments that the kids grow up in are different as well (even the society from 10 years ago was different, not to mention parents age and change behavior, school, friends... it all changes): nevertheless it's you who passed on the genes and provide parental bonding. Anyways, good luck and remember, kind people are liked without money and cruel people are not liked even with money. [/quote]

Not a Gattaca fan, huh...[/quote]

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