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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find the idea of living in a community solely comprised of old people to be profoundly depressing.[/quote]

I thought this too till I took a tour with my parents.  It was like a mini college campus.  There were lots of activities, clubs, and social events.  The dining options were quite good.  It was not like a nursing home where people are just waiting to die. [/quote]

And IMO the most important part is that you are guaranteed a Smooth transition (in a CCRC) to the higher level of care.  Meaning, the IL living spouse can Walk (all inside) to see their spouse in higher level care.  They can even (if appropriate) take them "out and back to IL" for the day under their own supervision (if at a lower level of memory care or assisted living).  Being able to see your spouse daily is huge for both spouses wanting to stay alive and being content.

I've heard of too many friends whose parents end up at different facilities and you have to make an effort to transport them for a few hours on weekends to see each other.

Also even in the higher level care, it's more enjoyable when you likely already know some of your fellow residents from IL times.

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I wish my parents had enough savings for a CCRC for exactly this reason. My dad will be in memory care soon, and my mom will be driving every day to visit. I know that will take a toll on her. She will feel compelled to visit and spend lots of time  there or else feel guilty, but what is she going to do when she visits? Sit there and listen to all the residents talk nonsense? It's going to be soul crushing. I wish they could be in a CCRC or some other facility with mixed care levels. She could instead visit a few times a day but for short visits just to make contact and check in. Or bring him back to her apartment to visit with the dog, but then return him to memory care if he gets agitated or overly confused.

There is a higher end CCRC near me that is like a college dorm or campus like a PP mentioned, and that is my retirement goal. [/quote]

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