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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find the idea of living in a community solely comprised of old people to be profoundly depressing.[/quote]

I thought this too till I took a tour with my parents.  It was like a mini college campus.  There were lots of activities, clubs, and social events.  The dining options were quite good.  It was not like a nursing home where people are just waiting to die. [/quote]

And IMO the most important part is that you are guaranteed a Smooth transition (in a CCRC) to the higher level of care.  Meaning, the IL living spouse can Walk (all inside) to see their spouse in higher level care.  They can even (if appropriate) take them "out and back to IL" for the day under their own supervision (if at a lower level of memory care or assisted living).  Being able to see your spouse daily is huge for both spouses wanting to stay alive and being content.

I've heard of too many friends whose parents end up at different facilities and you have to make an effort to transport them for a few hours on weekends to see each other.

Also even in the higher level care, it's more enjoyable when you likely already know some of your fellow residents from IL times.

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You just want to check, however, about the costs when one spouse moves to higher level care. The prices can change. My ILs waited too long to move into one of these places (e.g., into a a 1 or 2 BR unit) and now can’t do so as MiL does not qualify as independent living, even if they have FT help. They can’t afford to pay for one of them to be in IL and one to be in memory care.

That said, my mom thrived when she made the pivot from living alone to one of these residences. She simply needed more socialization than what she could get remaining in her house. Even the staff commented on it as that is not everyone’s experience. [/quote]

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