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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find the idea of living in a community solely comprised of old people to be profoundly depressing.[/quote]

Think of how lonely it is when you are elderly and you live with your child and their spouse. They leave home at 8 and come home in the evening. You are alone all day. When your child and spouse come home they have worked all day and want to relax, run errands, deal with kids. With two parent working families it is depressing for many elderly people. My mother had a stroke and first she tried living with my brother but was quite depressed then came to live with me and just slept all day and didn't eat. She moved to an independent/assisted living apartment in a community of about 200. She drastically improved. She went on day bus tours to museums, the movies, and other activities. She played bingo Tuesday and Saturdays and went to other classes the other days. She ate lunch and dinner in the restaurant with friends everyday.

Multi-generational homes work well if one parent doesn't work and you can afford help. My grandmother lived in another country with her daughter (my aunt) who doesn't work. They had a maid for the house and a part-time maid for my grandmother.  My aunt's kids lived close -one next door, one a block away and the other one 5 miles away so there were always people popping in to eat and say hi. That set-up seems great but doesn't really happen in the US. [/quote]

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