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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]meh. I met my DH when I was 30 and he 36.  We had our first when I was 34, second at almost 38.  They are teens now, one in college.

Neither DH nor I were ready to be married or have kids in our 20s.

I have told my kids (DS and DD) to not get married too early, or at the least, don't have kids too early.  Live your life and have a career first, including building up your finances. Once kids come, your life as you know it is over.[/quote]

+100000

You have your entire life to focus on family.

Now that I’ve had two kids I can’t imagine sacrificing myself like this in my 20s. [/quote]

Honestly I don’t consider anything about having kids and raising them to be a sacrifice.  I actually sometimes look back on my young adult life before kids and wonder what the heck I did all day.

I’m not saying I love my kids more, but I genuinely enjoy everything about being a mom.  I love carting them all over the place, I love watching their games and concerts, I love playing with them and talking to them and teaching them.

Trivia night at the bar or a week in some rundown European hostel doesn’t compare.

All that to say, there isn’t one right way to live your life.  Everyone has different priorities and different timelines.  Just run your own race and stop judging everyone else.[/quote]

You sound like you never had a job you loved. Some of us did. [/quote]

I very much enjoyed my job, actually.  But did I love my job?  Like I love my husband and I love my kids?  Of course not!

If you honestly love your job more than you think you’d love your family, just don’t have a family.  It’s not a requirement.[/quote]
DP
I think everyone has diverse temperaments, desires and capabilities. So many posters here think their way is the only correct way to find success and happiness, which is ridiculous. People also change a ton throughout their lives and parents telling their kids not to have kids or at least wait, often change as they get older and switch to prodding their kids to hurry and reproduce. I have counseled my kids to focus on something and changed my mind with time. The thing about advising your kids is that they may follow it closely or go the exact opposite way and be even happier.[/quote]

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