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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How is it that everyone on DCUM has ADHD/ASD?[/quote]

They don’t. ADHD is really just that people were never taught executive functioning skills as children. Especially boys, who generally are held to much lower standards than girls and observed that their own fathers never did anything around the house. [/quote]

op - not so. adhd is real. one dc has it, dh has it, and i have it. but it's a catch all term for a variety of different issues really. 
The problem is that even if you have adhd, you still have to establish a framework for operating in the world such that you CAN deliver on basic things. You may not be able to executive function at the highest levels, but you can - given medication and effort - set your life up in a such a way that you are meeting expectations of adulthood. I see it every day with people on my team. My variety of adhd means I cannot pay attention for a whole meeting so I need to work harder after hours to make up for that and read notes, recaps etc. you cant just throw your hands up. [/quote]

Why dont you just choose then to not let it affect you? What are you getting out of not focusing for the whole meeting? Weaponized incompetence? Can someone explain the mentality of not focusing for a whole meeting? As an adult, that is a basic work task. Just do it. Just focus for the whole meeting. Stop using your adhd as an excuse. Look at others on this thread who say they have ADHD and never let it affect any aspect of their lives. You could too if you just tried and wanted to.[/quote]

I sincerely hope this is satire.[/quote]

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