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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t see how OP IS “responsible”?

If this is the first time kid has been getting themselves to the bus,[b] I think it’s natural for the parent to feel concerned. [/b]For me, after a few days I’d figure my kid had it and jot follow up again, but then again, I’d also have the discussion with the other parents that we were having kid figure this out themselves and I’d appreciate if the parents can just keep part of an eye out the first few days - and then watch from the sidelines myself to make sure kid was figuring it out, coursing streets properly, etc., which is what I did.

Maybe because I’m not American, but I don’t see the heavy responsibility here, as the mom is just asking p, so the answer could be “sorry! Didn’t see Larlo board the bus!” “Sorry, drove Larla instead!”

I guess my neighbourhood is different. We all watch out for each other’s kids. If I’m walking my kid anyway, there’s not a single reason in the world I can’t just notice the other kid and respond. This isn’t a responsibility - it’s a kindness. [/quote]

And that’s why you stay and watch them.

If you’re not concerned, then you just let them go, which many people do.

And it’s not about being American or watching out for people‘s kids in general. I watch out for your kids and my neighbor’s houses and everything under the sun, but if I start getting texts every day about it then that’s the annoyance. [/quote]

“Hey Larla, I know it’s hard to watch our kids become more independent. Things seem great. How about I’ll text you if I see anything out of the ordinary? I don’t always drop Larlitta off, but like I said, I’ll try to Text if anything I notice is out of the ordinary. So cool Larlo is getting the bus on his own!”
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I'm a "village" person and I think OP is being ridiculous- she should just text "yes!" if the answer is yes, or "I'm not sure, I didn't notice, sorry!" if the answer is she didn't notice.  Or, "we weren't there this morning, sorry".  But this above suggestion is actually problematic for me and I'd actually feel like I WAS taking on responsibility that I might not want.  This suggestion promises that you will text the mom if anything is wrong. Therefore, if the child gets hurt on the way to the bus stop, or lost, or abducted, or whatever the mom is worried about- and you don't notice, or you're not there- you actually do bear some responsibility because you'd told the mom you would look out for her daughter every morning (how else would you be able to promise to text her if something happened, if you hadn't implicity agreed to watch her each morning?).   If you just act normal, like responding to her texts when she texts, you are taking zero responsibility for anything and promising nothing.  You're just answering a question. [/quote]

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