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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous](Open with sympathy and how much the school sucks)

So, I actually work from home and I have a very short window of time that I'm able to run out and drop DS (if you want, insert something about having lots of meetings or a micromanaging boss). I usually barely manage to drop him off before the bell. If I had to add another child, I'm not confident I could get them there on time. I really wish I could help![/quote]

That is WAY too wordy and you don't owe anyone a reason why your answer is no. Plus, if you give one that gives people encouragement to problem solve. Just say no. [/quote]

PP. I get that, but if I wanted to maintain good social relationships with these people, I'd give some kind of reason,  even if a less wordy one. [/quote]

No, if you want to maintain a relationship then you should help your friends when they need help. You want the benefits of a friendship without the commitment/follow through.[/quote]

Yup—OP you don’t have a real reason why you can’t help other than “don’t want to.” If they are dropped off at your house, it adds no time to take extra kids. So, there’s no reason to give. Just say “no” and they will see what your relationship is.[/quote]

What about when OP’s kid is sick or not going to school for some reason? Then the extra kids are a burden.[/quote]

JFC.  Then you CALL or TEXT the other parents and say “can’t take the kids today!” And let them figure it out!

Some of you people are so over the top it’s ridiculous.  [/quote]

Yeah this and a few recent posts have a few people scrambling to think of any reason possible, no matter how remote, why they can’t possibly help others. It’s so bizarre. [/quote]

Mostly because weve been burned by people who would say what do you mean you cant take Larlo today? Why didnt you tell me earlier? Weve already left or some insane reason for why their kid is (now) their problem to handle. 
Again the issue that these parents individually contacted OP who lives close to the school versus other parents who lost bus routes. This isnt the way to go about it because it requires only one side to be giving and the other to be taking. 
They didnt say hey can you do mwf and we will do t/th they just said hey we want to drop off our kid at your house because we lost the bus route. [/quote]

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