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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Trust your gut on this one. I'd bring her to a psychiatrist for therapy, and also consider the neuropathy test. Girls aren't always identified with ADHD/anxiety/ASD, and this could be it. [b]An IEP will be helpful, even though she is doing really well.[/b]

We had to take this on ourselves, since my kid wasn't doing poorly in school. But now, a few years in, we know we did the right thing.

I'm so sorry. This is really hard.  [/quote]

A child doesn't just get an IEP, whether they have a formal diagnosis of anxiety or ADHD or ASD.  It doesn't work like that (nor should it).[/quote]

OP - what would an IEP look like for a kid who tests well and does well in school?

I am also so worried that we ruined DD during covid lockdowns.  She does not do well with change/unfamiliar schedules and during covid we had just had a new baby, ripped her out of her daycare and then started her in virtual kindergarten.  I had very severe PPD during this time that was untreated (due to covid policies) and probably was the worst parent ever during this time. Lots of yelling, screaming, disregulated household, etc.  I got treated for my PPD, my youngest started sleeping through the night and it got better but I am so worried that during this time we truly ruined DD and this is all stemming from that period of time. [/quote]

While most of us parents have wondered whether we "ruined" our children at times, the household environment you described is highly unlikely to be the cause of whatever is going on now. The pandemic was already close to 3 years ago. Maybe the stress caused some of the underlying issues that were already there to surface, but based on what you described, it's unlikely that the household environment for a finite period of time "caused" this.

Just get the neuro psych exam. Better to have answers than trying to figure it out on your own. My DD was diagnosed with ADHD at age 7. She shares a lot of the same traits you describe with your DD: inflexibility, emotional outbursts, losing track of time/difficulty staying on task (especially when we are trying to leave the house), wanting things to be just so--esp with her hair. She was also have difficulty regulating her emotions at school but she's a good student overall. I thought she had anxiety but when we finally had her tested, she was diagnosed with ADHD which took me by surprise. I didn't realize how much emotional dysregulation is a core feature of ADHD.

All of this to say, just have her tested. If this was any other medical issue, of course you'd WANT the test to understand what is going on and how to treat it. It's the same here. [/quote]

… emotional dysregulation can be a symptom of a lot of things, including, yes, instability at home and a dysfunctional parenting style. (also OP says no academic issues so ADHD is unlikely.) a neuropsych will take months/years to access. OP doesn’t have time for that and needs to find parenting support. [/quote]

Of course you can have ADHD without any resulting academic issues. That can be one of the symptoms, but isn't always. There are lot of kids--especially girls--who are good students but have ADHD nonetheless. Second, you can get a test done within a few months. I know because I did it last year. OP should certainly try to find parenting support in the meantime, but why not pursue all possible avenues to get answers? [/quote]

You cannot have ADHD with no ADHD symptoms!! The DSM even states that symptoms cannot come solely from oppositionality or deficiance.

They way people want to see hidden diagnoses is really misguided. These are diagnoses based on symptoms - it’s not at all like high blood pressure where you may not have symptoms. [/quote]

Why are you saying there are no symptoms?? Perhaps go back and read the OP and the subsequent posts where she talks about emotional outbursts, losing track of time/taking really long to do things, inflexibility. Those could point to something else, but those are also ADHD symptoms. Doesn't mean she has it unless the other criteria are present. Academic problems can be one symptom but not every ADHD kid has poor grades. But there's one way to find out whether it's something or nothing--and that would be to get her tested by a professional. Pulling up the DSM online isn't going to cut it.[/quote]

because OP wrote: “ DD has no trouble concentrating. She does great and school, comes home and immediately does her homework, has never once not studied for a test, is very organized”

OTOH OP has said repeatedly that the child is anxious and moody and having outbursts. So starting with evidence based therapy for anxiety makes sense.

Also OP is pretty clear that the child had a very difficult family situation for 3 years. That absolutely can have an impact on behavior and any competent family therapist would look to improve parenting skills. [/quote]

Child sounds tired and this sounds more like a mental health issue for mom.[/quote]

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