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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn’t mind this at all if my kids were early risers and that 10 minutes wasn’t a “my kid could sleep more” issue. But carpooling is fun and you’re helping out a family who has a newborn….i don’t think 10 minutes is make or break. [/quote]

I don't think the baby is a newborn -- mom is back at work part-time. So they have an infant who is maybe 2-4 months old and still doing that first-thing-in-the-morning nap. Or maybe was but is outgrowing it and staying awake longer in the morning.

I agree a carpool can be fun but it's also a commitment -- if I know I'm another families regular plan for getting their kid somewhere then I have to factor it into everything. This can be fine as long as I have a good relationship and communication with the other family and they have some kind of back up plan. For instance for what OP is describing I'd want to make sure that they aren't going to freak out if it turns out I or my kid is sick and I text at 7am letting them know we aren't going in. Or once a month or so my kid has a specialist doctors appointment and I try to do them first thing in the morning. I'd need to know that they'd have some other plan for when that came up. I wouldn't want to be trying to schedule doctor's appointments around the carpool.

It's sounds to me like the problem here is that OP doesn't actually know this family that well so there isn't that trust and understanding there. And also no one made clear how long this was going to go on -- OP obviously thought it was a temporary thing to help them with the new baby or maybe the transition to school but the family may now be assuming this will be fine forever. In other words they may be relying too heavily on her without having a backup for the inevitable times when OP won't be able to do it. They need to take more responsibility for the situation and set it up so it's easy for OP and not too burdensome.[/quote]

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