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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She’ll go after the girlfriend in court.  Why exactly is the gf available to babysit for three hours a day? Is she doing an early shift at her own job?  Does she not work? I’m not so sure op is in the clear the court won’t necessarily agree kid should be spending majority of waking time with live in girlfriend.  Maybe if it was his wife/stepmom.  [/quote]
IMO it is weird for the GF to babysit for 3 hours 3 days a week but it sounds like the mom's living situation is about to get very uncomfortable and weird. Kind of no win here. Maybe mom thinks a child support top up will help her keep her apartment?[/quote]

The gf isn’t babysitting so much as just being at her home and the kid is there too because the kid also lives there.[/quote]
GF is picking her up from school and babysitting her regularly. The child should be with her mother if her mother is available. There is a good chance GF is gonna be gone in a year or two because that's how things go. The girl should not be bonding with a random when mom is available. I would not be happy with this situation if I were the mom. Seems like dad is trying to keep the 50/50 arrangement so he doesn't have to pay. On the other hand, mom needs to get a job so she can provide appropriate housing. Of course the kid is the one losing out, which is how it always goes. [/quote]

That’s absurd and a judge would see right through it. Child custody proceedings are not the forum to take out your jealousy against your ex’s girlfriend or spouse. And it’s totally reasonable for a custodial parent to use after-school childcare on a regular basis. Otherwise you’re claiming that having a job is incompatible with child custody.

Like it or not, right of first refusal is discretionary, not mandatory. No judge is going to order ROFR for *3 hrs* of normal after-school childcare in this context. If OP’s ex wanted that, she should have not gone crazy. [/quote]

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