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Im the PP.  I don't think we're talking about whether or not our kids would DIE. Who said anything about our kids dying if we werent home? funny how you slid that one in. This is about whether or not you could make it work on one paycheck. My story was simply to show that it can be done.  [b]I can assure you that you're just trying to ease your own sense of guilt for putting yourself in a situation where you're forced to work.  I have been on both sides of the argument - working full time with kids and being a SAHM.[/b]  When I was working FT, I used to think that all the SAHMs sat around with their girlfriends lunching, getting their manis/pedis and going to the gym. When I became a SAHM I understood just how wrong I was. 
Now I am going to say that IF you decide to become a SAHM, best to do it as your kids start school because that's when I found my kids really started needing me. Not just for homework but for the less obvious stuff - like conversations regarding their day. What they experienced. Who their friends are or arent. Nearly impossible to do that if you've been working all day, then drag yourself through the door to put some kind of decent meal on the table, all the while pretending to listen to your kids and DH about their days.

As for the person that commented on living in Richmond. Sorry to say that you live where the jobs are. Can't just pick up and move to Richmond because it's easier to live on $60K a year.

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Well, no.  My husband and I, through luck, hard work and opportunity, each make enough to support our family. I am not guilty for putting myself in a situation where I have to work, because I am not in that situation. In fact, working my tail off has paid off well - when my daughter is school aged, I will easily be able to leave work at 3:30 each day and be with her in the afternoons and evenings. Not everyone who made a choice different than yours is living a sad, miserable life filled with regrets - on the contrary, I'm really happy with my life.

Also, as a FT working mom, I have never thought that SAHMs just sit around all day - my mom was a SAHM, and a lot of my cousins and friends SAH.  I know that every mom and every family is different.  I just think it's silly to elevate what you do and criticize others to justify your decisions.  I can comfortably manage my 40 hour work week with my short commute.  I am organized enough that I don't cook much during the week (I cook and prep over the weekend while my daughter naps.) I ride the metro home with DD, and after she goes to bed (3 hours after I pick her up) I have a few hours to hang out with DH. [/quote]

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