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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I haven’t read all the comments, but even if you didn’t have a new baby, he should’ve asked you before doing that! Plus, does no one care about Covid or protecting babies from diseases anymore? You don’t need a bunch of people trooper around your baby. Before vaccination. I would be pissed and I would send a nice email explaining, but he jumped the gun and you’re feeling too tired for visitors right now [/quote]

Right. And ask yourself, what kind of people want to do that to a young family in such a vulnerable moment? DH needs to take a lot of responsibility, but I suspect that if his family members, [i]particularly[/i] his mother, who has some experience with what it's like to have a young baby, thought this was going to be a good idea, the OP is in for a couple decades of big trouble. Any reasonable MIL would slam the brakes and say, "If I must see the baby, we'll keep it brief, you need to focus on your wife and baby right now. We'll stay at a hotel, and don't you DARE ask your wife if we can come to the house! I didn't raise you to be thoughtless!"[/quote]

I doubt that MIL made her own mother-in-law stay at a hotel. This notion that childbirth recovery requires weeks and weeks of solitude is bizarre to me, and my kids are late teens. The grandmothers came to help our “their baby” - the new parents. My mother and MIL cooked, did laundry, dishes, etc.

OP, of course your DH should have discussed. But why shouldn’t his parents be allowed to meet their grandchild? They are family. I sure hope when my kids have children of their own they don’t suddenly decide I’m no longer family.

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Well, here’s your head start. You are suddenly NOT family. You are now extended family. You keep your distance if you love them, they’ll let you know when they’re ready. [/quote]

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