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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t understand the posters who are offended that the OP said her daughter as being a future SAHM as an option. Almost every other post on dcum is “DH is rich but we decided it’s best for our family to stay home.” That is the ideal so many women on here talk about, so why the issue with saying this life is an option for a girls future? [/quote]

Offended? No. It just shows where OP sees her kids. Her son? Carries her dreams and expectations. Her daughter? Eh who cares she can just pick up after some guy.

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Look I'm a working mom but to say being a SAHM is "picking up after some guy" is pretty stupid and...sexist. Value women's work and contributions no matter what sphere it's in. [/quote]

OP obviously doesn’t. If she did she’d be equally worried about [b]making sure her daughter was independently financially prepared if she wanted to be a SAHM (which is what my parents did for us so we DID have choices). [/b]But her lack of worry for her daughter is because…some guy…will take care of all that.[/quote]

Having a trust fund from your parents is not morally superior to being dependent on a spouse's income.

Either way, you are relying on someone else's labor and goodwill.  Nothing like making your own damn money.[/quote]

Where do you read trust fund?

If you want your daughter to have a real [i]choice[/i] to be a SAHM you prepare her for the kind of career where she makes enough money before kids to be independent. Then her spouse can be unemployed, she can lose her spouse, or any other foreseeable disaster and her choice doesn’t disappear. Just assuming some guy is going to materialize to pay her bills is overvaluing men and undervaluing your own daughter.

Yeah family money helps but it’s not the only option.[/quote]

The way that post was written made me think she was referring to a trust fund.

If it's about making your own money before having kids, then that is a different story.

It just rubbed me the wrong way to think that someone was crapping on a SAHM when she herself was set up financially by someone else.[/quote]

It was my post and I’m who you’re responding to. I have no problem with the choice to stay home. I have a problem with a parent washing her hands of concern for her child because some hypothetical man in a hypothetical future will make sure she’s taken care of— divorce, death, abuse obviously being for other people.

I believe a **choice** to be a SAHM starts with financial independence before kids and ideally before marriage. [/quote]

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