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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First, this is very long - the TLDR version is: the guy I am dating married young, had a long marriage, and now that he's divorced he wants to do the sexual exploration he missed out on by marrying young. I am not sure I am ok with a non-monogamous relationship.

That's all this is.

My opinion (since you asked) is that you tell him you would prefer to be exclusive, but if he's not ready for that you are ok with being non-exclusive and then you both date around. Hopefully he decides that he likes spending time with you more than he likes screwing around. I wouldn't do any polyamory BS that requires me to invest emotionally in his other sexual relationships.

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This.  I knew before I even got to the paragraph about why he didn’t want to be exclusive that it would be a tale as old as time that either he settled down too young or she done him wrong or whatever reason guys give for not wanting to be in a monogamous relationship that’s almost a cliche.

If you OP didn’t want to be exclusive and still wanted to date lots of people or have a FWB type then I would so go for it with ground rules.  In my experience though when you go along with something that at your core is not what you wanted to do but you talk yourself into for fear of losing the other person, it ultimately doesn’t work out in the end .[/quote]

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