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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I did not mean that the stuff is sadder than her death. That came out wrong. I just meant it is honestly heartbreaking to see them, grief-stricken, also dealing with tons of work, confusion, guilt, and endless labor. They know she didn’t want it all to go to Goodwill or what have you, but they (and the larger family) only want a few things, not everything. There’s just so much.

The weight of the stuff is very, very heavy. [/quote]

Your cousins should have helped their mother do this when she was alive. Elderly people have a VERY difficult time knowing where to begin.  It’s overwhelming, and even emotional. At the end of the day, even after giving away things, you’re still going to have a lot left - furniture, clothes, cookware, cleaning supplies, luggage, decorations, linens, rugs, lamps, books, art, decor, fans, gardening supplies, container plants and patio furniture, make up and toiletries, medicines, and all the other garbage that’s found in a home, even a pared down home. [/quote]

They…did. I don’t know what you expect, though, they couldn’t steal her file cabinets or force her to get rid of an extraneous armchair. They helped, offered, tried to discuss, but they didn’t force. -OP[/quote]

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