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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know I know I should be grateful he is healthy and reasonably good looking , and he actually reads for pleasure, and tries to eat healthy. However, this is about all of his accomplishments.

He is just so perfectly average, at least for our area, that it hurts. I was a good student, top of the class, elementary through college. I didn’t live in such a competitive area with great talent but still. I don’t earn a ton of money, nor do I have a high powered job, but I am quite often the smartest in the room, I know what I want and I usually achieve whatever I put my mind to. He, however, is always somewhere in the middle of the pack.

He is bright but I think he lacks focus and motivation. He also isn’t super likeable or charming, more on the shy side (also not like me).

I will never ever show my disappointment to him but I just feel very sad sometimes. They had an award ceremony at school today and a [b]kid whom I knew as very average[/b] had a 4.0 GPA, while my kid has a 2.9. He also didn’t get a single award in any subject or area. It’s middle school but still.

That is all. I don’t think there’s anything to do about it but I wanted to get it off my chest. [/quote]

How did you know this?[/quote]

That kid was in remedial English until this year, lower level math, etc. 
I also know him and his parents a little and they are not very, shall I say, intellectual? I mean they aren’t stupid or anything, it’s just that I think they are not thinkers, you know? [/quote]

This is really unkind, OP.  Maybe the child had undiagnosed learning disabilities and now they're being addressed.  Or maybe the child will stay in lower level courses - he should still be celebrated for getting a 4.0.  I'm not even going to touch your comment about the parents.[/quote]

+1 I shared before about my son who did much better after being diagnosed/treated for ADHD in HS. I know when he and former ES/MS classmates were finishing HS there were some comments/looks questioning how did DS get into college X when their (presumably superior) kid did not. They had no idea of DS's path as the kids and parents had not remained friends into HS.
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