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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH and I went to top colleges and ivy grad schools. We now have a seven figure HHI and live in McLean. Many kids at our kids’ school have parents who attended ivy schools and/or were strong athletes. I have two kids in AAP and one kid currently in first grade. I expect youngest to also get into AAP. My kids are surrounded by high achieving kids and parents and my kids just know this as normal everyday life. [/quote]

Neither DH nor I attended top colleges. Our grad degrees checked boxes for our employers and that's it. We do not have a 7 figure HHI. All 3 of my kids are in AAP. So do I get bragging rights too?[/quote]

I am answering OP about living in a competitive UMC area. Dh and I are high achievers. My kids are high achievers. They have friends who are high achievers and have high achieving parents. You seem to care more about your lack of top college than I do. Maybe our kids play soccer or tennis together. I really wouldn’t care where you went to college.[/quote]

How is this an answer to the OP? You’re literally the example of the hyper- competitive parents w/ hyper-competitive children OP is asking how to parent their own children around. [/quote]

I actually just answered. I said I don’t put much pressure on my kids and encourage them to try their best. It isn’t like I tell them to seek out high achieving friends. They seem to naturally have friends who are smart and excel at a lot of things like themselves. [/quote]

You didn’t answer the question. You just came here to brag..what’s missing in your life that you need to breathlessly brag on an anonymous forum? Not enough validation from the people around you?[/quote]

The post was about raising kids in a highly competitive environment. My kids perform well in this environment. It just seems like normal everyday life. Many kids in this area come from a similar background and grow up together. They have parents who did well in school and/or their careers. The kids also do well in school. I don’t think this is bragging. Everyone is in a similar boat.[/quote]

No. Not everyone is in a similar boat.  If you want to stereotype it’s doubtful that too many of the parents with the government and big law jobs are athletic.  There is a disproportionate number of posters who claim their child is an elite athlete.  I’d assume these kids learned a sport through organized clubs and the parents see their kid playing capably and think they’re elite.  Like you said they are living their every day life and have no idea how many naturally gifted athletes are out there.

Also just because a parent went to Harvard law school and is successful it does not mean their child will not have difficulty academically or socially.   Successful confident adults accept their kids doing the best that they can and reaching their top abilities whether it’s community college or Harvard.

I grew up in a wealthy community and my children are too and there are all kinds of kids at these schools.   Not everyone in a community is a clone of their neighbors rowing the same boat.  [/quote]

Everyone in our neighborhood and school are different. Most kids do something well, not necessarily. I am not an athletic person and went to HYP. Funny how pp is telling me about non athletic smart people. Thankfully my kids take after DH and not me. DH is much more athletic than I am. Being unathletic is nothing to be proud of. [/quote]

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