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[quote=Anonymous]There is a lot to unpack here.

Mom—I think your narrative is greatly contributing to the issues here. You seem to go on and on to him about how smart he is—this is creating massive anxiety and pressure on him to constantly prove he’s smarter than his peers. Which he may not even be. Then you turn around and blame being smart on why he’s bullied—so now he’s pressured to live up to your expectations, but if he does, in his mind, he will be bullied. Then you tell him to stop speaking in class bc that will make him a target.

Pretty clear why he doesn’t want to go to school.

Then at home—you paint a picture of being ridiculously strict. No video games ever and discussing that he can’t do extra curriculars over the summer bc he pushed a kid who knocked his tooth out? The saying you wish he’d just take the violence instead of defending himself? It’s like you want him to feel like crap. You’re his mom and you don’t have his back, how the hell would he have any confidence?

Plus there is something else up with him that you’re missing—kids don’t get aggressively bullied at multiple schools just because they are “smart.”

You need to figure out how to build him up. You need to figure out how to help him figure out his interests and help him cultivate those. If school is terrible, he needs things outside of school that he likes, that build him up.[/quote]

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