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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP-you sound like a world class jerk.  I feel sorry for your kids and for your "boring, abusive, twice divorced, demanding" wife.  I for one will not read this thread anymore and hope that others will follow.  It is clear you want attention and want someone to understand what a great guy you are.  I hope I don't know you in real life-you just sound like such a schmuck.[/quote]

OP.  Hang in there.  This is mostly a forum for the Ya-Ya sisterhood to dump on their men in great detail and expect validation.  Men don't like getting into the same level of detail about how their wives disappoint them because they think it reflects poorly on them.  Women don't think that way.  They just think the guy is a screw-up and they could have done better.  So of course the sisters are going to think you haven't provided enough of an explanation for why you've made your decision, and call you a schmuck, a loser and a jerk.  You wandered into the wrong place for support.  Put the car in reverse and get out of here.[/quote]

Overall I agree with you, but in this case, OP only posted negative things about his wife and positive things about him. Very few divorces shake out like this. He would have gotten more support if he'd just taken some responsibility. [/quote]

I agree but come on, women post all the time about divorcing a good-for-nothing yet they were honest, mature, and giving during the entire marriage, right?[/quote]

Well for me, no. I think both people are responsible and that includes women. I'm not divorced but going through a tough time and finally after a year of working I can take full responsibility for my 50%. I see that now, but it takes a while to get there. I can see why people give up before they get there, it is the most painful experience in the world.

I was neither honest (to him or myself), mature, or giving! That usually means the other person isn't either because we tend to go to the lowest common denominator, and that's when the fun begins, and the real work of marriage IMO.[/quote]

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