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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Grow up op. Your mom is passed. Let him live his life. [/quote]

This.
And maybe read a few books on death and grieving of a spouse so you’ll be educated.
This is not about your dad replacing or forgetting the wonderful years with your mom.
It’s about your dad needing to not feel like he died WITH her. He is very much alive and has human emotional and physical needs that surpass your need for him to express his love for your mom by committing to being sad, lonely, and celibate.
(Btw, I’d give this advice to someone whose mom passed 6 months ago too—but yours passed 6 YEARS ago!!!)
If your dad was happy in his marriage—this is all the more reason he craves this type of romantic companionship. He isn’t trying to “replace” your mom. He’s trying to fill a real void in his life that has been opened up as a result of her passing. 
Celebrate with him! Find room and LOVE in your heart to welcome her and enjoy that she brings your dad some joy!
She is not your mom and she isn’t trying to be. Please don’t treat her like the enemy or treat your dad like he is doing something wrong or as though he is betraying your mom—or you! He doesn’t need that guilt. He lots the love of his life and just needs to feel some kind of special joy in being alive again.
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