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[quote=Anonymous]I see all of these comments on here and I must be awful because I completely understand how you feel!!!!  
My Dad passed away almost 2 years ago. My parents were married for 40 years. It wasn’t 6 months after he passed when I found out that my Mom was talking to someone. What made it worse was that it was our old boss. 
My Mom and I worked at the same place together for years. I had my 2nd child and finally quit, and our boss retired and moved away. I had always thought he liked my Mom and my Dad must have gotten a weird vibe from him also bc he didn’t care for him at all. So, to find out my Mom was dating not only my boss, but also the one man that would have broken my Dad really upset me. 
She started traveling with him and leaving her kids (yes, I’m 40 but she’s still my Mom) and Grandkids behind. My family has always been the closest!!! Now it feels like she’s a totally different person. I know in some ways she is, but she has turned into someone who I feel doesn’t care about us at all. She’s gone for months at a time. Comes home for a short period and stays home even longer. She now talks about her life like she has no one and he’s a “companion” for her. That’s very hurtful bc we are all here needing and wanting our Mother. My children ask about her and are so disappointed that she’s not here. 
I don’t want to accept this man into my life either. If my Dad knew what was going on, he would be shattered and that makes me feel shattered for him. He was an amazing man. Loved my Mother like a princess. I know he’s not here, but I still feel like my loyalty lies with him. Family was always his priority and he always put his us and my Mom first. I feel like I’m living in a nightmare. It breaks my heart to see what has become of our family now. I feel like I don’t even know my Mom anymore and I don’t understand why she feels her family isn’t important. 
I’m so sorry for your loss and sorry you are having to navigate these feelings and it seems like no one understands. 
I don’t want to see my Mom sad and alone either. Just don’t understand why out of all the men she could have chosen, she had to choose the one that would hurt my Dad the most. [/quote]

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