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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok, you haven’t said what your kid’s allergens are, unless I missed it. I’m going to assume they’re tree nuts and peanuts, given the Easter egg context. I’m also going to assume it was a chocolate bunny given the foil wrapped comment you made.

First thing you should teach your kid with nut allergies is to NEVER accept/eat chocolate that isn’t labeled with ingredients.  Doesn’t matter if a parent gives it to them or not.  No ingredients to read= hard pass. I know it’s hard/sad to see them unable to enjoy like other kids, but I’ve always taught my 14 year old son with nut allergies that no brownie or chocolate is worth having a reaction and that we will get a safe treat later.

It sounds like your kid knew that and refused, so good for her.  She carries two epis all the time- good for her.

You know your ex best, but with nut allergies, sweets are really hard, so I wouldn’t necessarily extrapolate that a slip up with chocolate means all food your ex provides is now suspect. Unfortunately, there is nothing we can do to ever be 100% safe from allergens. There are always food recalls stating undeclared allergens found, etc. [/quote]

This was the safe treat mom gave her after and she trusted mom when it came to the replacement safe treat and didn't catch it. OP did as he recognized it and stopped her from eating it. Had daughter not called him then, she would have eaten it and more than likely had a reaction. While most on here say who cares - her problem. Some of us can understand (as an adult who had allergies as a child and a mother I couldn't trust to not give me nuts) how this makes daughter feel. [/quote]

Oh please. The kid wasn't a moment away rom eating it, life hanging in the balance, until she called Daddy who saved her life.[/quote]

Why do you say that? She was eating through the 'safe' candy, and would have eaten the chocolates next. Dad noticed and stopped her. Had dad not stopped her I am not sure why you think the chocolate wouldn't have caused a serious or even life threatening reaction when she ate it?[/quote]

Because she stopped and thought about it. This is her life. She knows she has to think before eating "unsafe" things. [/quote]

Op said he stopped her as he noticed it when talking ot her on the phone and knew it wasn't safe. . [/quote]

What is this candy dad immediately recognized but kid didn't? I call BS on this story.[/quote]

Did you read the thread? It was an Easter candy. Dad had seen it in the store but didn't buy it after he checked it and saw it had nuts. Mom gave it to daughter as the safe replacement candy - dad was on the phone and saw it and told her not to eat it. Daughter didn't know it wasn't safe as mom had given to her as a safe replacement for the candy she couldn't eat.

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Actually, if you read carefully the OP has avoided stating whether it contained the allergen, was a “may contain” or a “processed on shared equipment”. If you have an allergic kid you know that many allergists advocate a different level of risk tolerance to these different labels, and OP hasn’t said which it was.

For my dangerously allergic child, we allow “shared equipment” or “may contain trace” if we are in our own home (with every level of response available to us and 11 minutes from an ER). Our allergist endorses this approach. So no, we don’t know that this candy was necessarily dangerous.[/quote]

OP is specifically being vague. It would actually be helpful for OP to share the information for other concerned allergy parents, like "hey PSA, avoid this candy, we almost found out the hard way" that it contains nuts. Curious OP won't do that.[/quote]

Wouldn't other concerned allergy parents already be reading the labels?  [/quote]

Apparently not always but maybe concerned teachers, grandparents, neighbors and friends would like to know too. What's the big secret?[/quote]

OP isn't telling the entire truth and doesn't want to be outed. [/quote]

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