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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ll answer this as a wife of a very high earning big firm lawyer-I have to do everything. It’s exhausting and I have become extremely resentful.

We aren’t divorced…yet. [/quote]

if you are the wife of a high earner, you can pay people to do the stuff you don't want to do.  cleaning, cooking, laundry, running kids around etc.

first world problems.[/quote]

You can't pay someone to love your kids for you or make a house feel like a home or figure out how to support your middle schooler who is struggling socially or show up to family events with you to make it easier to deal with your FIL. There are certain aspects of being a partner and a parent that cannot be outsourced, and if one person decides that they don't have to do ANY of it, even physically show up a lot of the time, because of their job, it absolutely can lead to resentment. Even if you outsource every bit of labor that can be outsourced (though even this has it's limits because while a big law partner or surgeon will make a ton of money, it's not enough to hire a full time live in housekeeper and a chef and a driver), being totally alone in maintaining all the relationships in a family is actually incredibly difficult and isolating.[/quote]

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