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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like your son was parroting comments and sentiments you yourself had expressed. You invited someone to your home only to mock him and enlist your elementary school son in the process. That is no way to treat a guest. You owe him an apology. I suggest counseling to deal with your deep rooted latent hostility and anger towards your family. They’re all obviously fine with their living and support arrangements. You, on the other hand, are seething with rage. Please get help soon and stop attacking those who love you. [/quote]

DH and I are very careful to not talk in front of the kids about my brother. I think it was more that DS doesn't know any grown men without jobs, and was thinking out loud as he struggled to understand the situation. All he sees is my brother sitting or laying on the couch when he's here. He won't even play on the floor with the kids or go outside to draw with chalk on the driveway. Also, we don't invite my brother. My mother calls and announces she's "sending" him over. He used to try to bring dirty laundry thinking I'd do it for him. DH finally told him after the 4th or 5th time that was never going to happen. [/quote]

I don’t believe you. Seven year olds are not that obsessed with adult jobs, even in DC. You sound high pressure and anxiety ridden OP. I wouldn’t want to be your brother and I wouldn’t want to be your son![/quote]

You're speculating about a motive here - that OP's son must be "obsessed with adult jobs" - that is completely unnecessary.  Seven year olds ask a lot of questions, about everything.  Especially when they don't understand the answers they are getting.  It's entirely believable that OP's son asked question after question after question.

Have you ever actually met a seven year old?  [/quote]

LOL, NP, but my 7 year old knows that people are all different, in so many ways. I don’t think she’d blink if someone didn’t have a job, because she knows SAH people, retired people. Self employed people, job seeking people, just.. people. Just lie, she wouldn’t be concerned with families with separated parents or same sex parent, or being raised by grandparents.. she gets that everyone is different. Th3 lack of a defined career is such a strange thing for a 7yo to be (apparently) bothered by, if your child has been exposed to anything at all. My guess is they haven’t been, given the tidbit earlier that he hasn’t been exposed to *men* (specifically) without jobs. My kid knows many parents with seasonal jobs and could literally not GAF more. [/quote]

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