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[quote=Anonymous]My sisters in law gossip about me to their mom. Constantly. Its everything I say on the phone, text, or post to social media. If I run into them in town, they are so well-trained that they call their mom immediately to tell her they ran into me and what I was buying, or what I posted this time. Its weirdly pathetic. Their lives are pretty empty, evidently. They are not married, have kids, do not date or have boyfriends or relationships in any way, other than with their mom. I feel disrespected. I feel my husband is disrespected. I feel my marriage is disrespected. My mother in law condones this. She would rather talk about me than talk to me. I think the sisters are jealous to some degree that their brother found someone and they are still alone.

I have virtually no relationship with MIL and she's ok with that, and now I am too. I feel she's uncomfortable around me, she stiffens up and always looks panicked when she's left alone with me. She's so curious about me that I found out she was discussing me with her pastor, speculating on the reasons why I am no longer practicing my religion, which isn't her religion. I have found out that she has had long discussions about me to many, many people in her circle and I find it not just annoying, but dishonest, and odd, and gossipy. I try to put myself in her shoes and try to figure out just exactly what it is about me that she's so fascinated by that she feels the need to talk about me behind my back, but not to my face, but I'm coming up blank. I just dont understand these kinds of women.

I feel I cannot trust her or her daughters. 
My husband tells me to ignore their bad behavior, and I've tried, but something always gets revealed in accident or passing, which stirs up my feelings of being disrespected by this crew. I think, 'Oh, they are talking about me, AGAIN. Still. Some more.'

I used to think the sisters were just ridiculous with this, but now I realize, they are trained this way by their mom. She's the head of the snake. They tell her everything about me, mundane, irrelevant, little things, to please her, apparently, the 'Good Christian' (as she parades herself around town to her bible study buddies) isnt so very 'good'.  They do not love me, like me or respect me, my husband or my marriage. Despite their saying they do. Their behavior is opposite of what they say. I've learned (the hard way) to say and reveal very little to them in person, avoid gatherings and limit social media contact, to cut down on giving them something to talk about. When I posted anything, (dumb, irrelevant things, like a photo of our dog), first one to see the post calls the mom and reports it to her, like its important breaking news.

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