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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DW filed for divorce and she said we should tell our 2 kids 13 and 10 that WE are divorcing. I think she should tell them separately that she is divorcing me. Why do I have to protect her after she cheated and filed for divorce? [/quote]

It is hurtful to know your parent is an Ahole.  Someone who would cheat and thereby wreck their marriage is a bad parent.  It really emphasizes that they don't love you, not enough to be faithful to your parent and your family. Kids don't want to believe they have a bad parent.  They want and need to be able to fully love both of their parents.

If you care more about your kids than your anger and your pride, you will allow them to believe that this is a no fault situation.

When they are older you can decide whether to tell them the truth.  
If you feel your relationship with them is suffering because they blame you, talk to your ex about the fact that you need to share more information with the kids so you aren't the one taking the blame.
But meanwhile, suck it up for their sakes.[/quote]

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