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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like you have your own food issues as well OP. [/quote]

Sure! I hate wasted food and I hate people who eat more than 2-3 helpings when it isn’t a celebration. If it’s just a regular Saturday no one needs the chicken parm and the hamburger plus a side salad plus the calimari and wash that down with the monster sundae. No one needs to eat that much! And if you do choose to eat that much, fine but I don’t want to pay for it (especially since the dinner conversation was just listening to a lecture/rant). I don’t live very extravagantly so maybe that’s another psychological issue. [/quote]

But you said he eats it all, so where’s the waste? You are fixated on what you see at gluttony and greed around food. Time to work on your own food issues, OP.[/quote]

Stop. There’s no serious dispute that the FIL had serious food issues, call it food insecurity/gluttong/ whatever. Stop gaslighting the OP into thinking she’s the one with the food issues. No one their right mind acts like the FIL (orders 2 entrees for himself, orders extra entrees to go, hogs meat at the table, monitors everyone else’s food intake). [/quote]

No one is gaslighting OP! OP and her FIL both have food issues. If OP did not have food issues, her FIL's food issues would not be so wildly triggering for her. Time to get a grip on her own issues so she cope better around him and not seethe and perseverate over something that barely impacts her. [/quote]

This. “I hate people who eat more than 2-3 helpings when it isn’t a celebration”. OP is monitoring other people’s food consumption as closely as her father-in-law is.

OP, you know that your FIL has food issues. Either set up the circumstances so as to make it impossible for him to overeat or accept that he is going to overeat.

The pie thing would bother me too because of the kids, but the solution to that is to plate before you bring to the table. From the kitchen, you yell “who wants pie?” And start cutting up and sending out the little plates. We generally do that just because it’s a bit easier to manage in the kitchen with drips, etc.. but it would solve your problem. Don’t put him in the situation where his demons control the size of the serving. [/quote]

Maybe I have food issues, but if you think 4 servings of food is normal, I will respectfully note that you might as well. And no I’m not monitoring anyone’s food intake, except when someone takes almost all of everything and others go hungry.  So yes I noticed when my father in law ate almost every single slice of the cold cuts and I ended up with a cheese sandwich so that my kids could have two slices each. That’s what I’m talking about. [/quote]

But you know he’s going to do this. Why on earth don’t you keep some cold cuts back in the kitchen? Or have multiple serving platters so he can empty one and the rest of you can have one? Or, you know, maybe don’t start the platter on his end of the table? Stop acting like it’s surprise every time he gobbles up all the roast beef and you have to suffer with the cheese sandwich. [/quote]

If OP were Italian this wouldn't even be an issue. I'd love to meet the FIL who could out-eat what an Italian MIL could serve. Not possible.[/quote]

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