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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm an immigrant (came as an adult) and I don't think Americans are lacking in community spirit. In fact, they are more charitable than most, and I have always found people helpful and very kind, warmer. Perhaps lack of connection is perceived because Americans do move more, including far away from family, so there is less stress on grandparent, cousin relations? [/quote]

I was born in India and came when I was 6 to this country and I’ve often wondered this.

I always thought of the people here kind in their own way.

However, many “Americans” (loosely think of people who are born and raised in the US for at least two generations who don’t have much of a connection to their ancestors who may have come from another country) don’t think twice about putting themselves first - something that is looked down upon in my culture. And this manifests in terms of where I will always choose to live - either near my DH’s family or mine so that we can always be around to maintain those connections or support them if they ever needed it.

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This is such hogwash.  I find the Indian people I work with the quickest to stab people in the back and put themselves first.  They are the fiercest ‘win at all cost’, no integrity competitors.[/quote]

I don’t think you got the point. It’s about the role of an individual within a family. I’m not talking about an individual in corporate culture. [/quote]

That is true. There is a lot of connection between family and maybe even family friends, but if you look back at the original poster we are all responding to they were talking about "community spirit." I think there isn't a lot of community spirit as the term is meant here. Perhaps they define their community as just their family and close friends, maybe even those who share a house of worship with them, but in this country, community spirit means the larger community and I don't think overall there is much concern about that. They just home their kids don't catch the "contagion."

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Immigrants are more family-oriented and don't care so much for people outside of family. WASPS don't care much about their families, but they looove strangers, the weirder, the better. They have some big time white savior sh** going.[/quote]

Not sure about WASPs as I'm not one. But, an area works better when people care about the larger community.
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Don't care about "the area", whatever that is. Family comes first.[/quote]

I wonder what the overlap is of people who put "family first" and people who complain other people don't talk to them at the bus stop/back to school night/sports sidelines and it must therefore be about race. They are probably picking up the vibe that the "family first" crowd want nothing to do with them[/quote]

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