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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I could never abort in that situation, but many people obviously would. Your child could also be extremely easily placed via adoption — this is literally most adoptive parents dream scenario (stable, non addict mother who genuinely voluntarily chooses not to parent despite having the means to), if you wanted to go that route. It’s really ultimately how you personally feel about it.[/quote]

You know nothing about [b] I[/b]the agony of relinquishing a child for adoption.  Of course you are thinking of the dream scenario for adopters.  But what does a child feel when she finds out that her mother was healthy and capable but just didn't want her?  What does a woman feel when she carries a pregnancy to term but can't be in contact with her child or be sure she is okay?

You also completely discount the fact that pregnancy and childbirth change a woman's body in major ways, sometimes debilitating ways.  A friend of mine has severe vaginal prolapse.  I had pre-eclampsia and now have cardiac issues.

Terminating a pregnancy is a much safer and less painful option if the pregnant woman does not want to be a mother.[/quote]

Didn’t want is very different than could not raise at that time.

Often adoption is the must mature and selfless decision a person can make.[/quote]

[b]OP says both of the parents are financially stable and could reasonably raise a child.[/b]  So no, this isn't a case of "could not raise at the time;" if OP gives the kid up to satisfy some weird DCUM 'ooooohh a healthy college-educated birth mom, that's what [b]I[/b] wanted' fantasy, then the kid would find out later that her parents just didn't want her, not that they couldn't raise her.[/quote]
Do you not see how this makes it even more clear that she should have the baby instead of abort it? Your logical reasoning makes no sense. It’s cruel to the child to be raised by someone else because OP could care for it but simply doesn’t want it. It’s ______ to the child to be aborted because OP could care for it but simply doesn’t want it? 
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[b]No, because the only potential cruelty is to the existing kid who grows up to wonder "why was I put up for adoption".[/b]  Now follow the logic, if you can.

Anyway, the OP is a troll who has never returned after asking for advice, and then additional trolls jumped on (this is my forty-third abortion, what is a condom??), and now this thread is ridiculous.[/quote]
Wrong. Cruelty is not just something to be borne passively (in the case of the child), it is also an action executed on another by a moral agent. The moral agent in this scenario is doing the same thing in both cases, only in one outcome the child ends up with loving strangers and the other outcome the child is dead.[/quote]

Try again.

How many adopted kids have horrible lives? Many.

And learn science you are an idiot.

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