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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would just stop making muffins and soup for you all.

And the next time you might ask me to watch my grandchild on a day when day care is closed, I might not see the text for hours and hours, or I might say, oh that’s not a good day, how about tomorrow?

I’ll just learn not to care about your hurt feelings. If you throw tantrums and complain about me to everyone, that will be YOUR problem.

Because it’s all about setting boundaries, right?
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I think that this would be fair, yes indeed. You are allowed to invite and contribute and do what you want when requested. Others are allowed the same. If you want to be petty about it -- to get back by pulling back what YOU want to contribute (or not)-- that may spite you or them more.[/quote]

Wow, the point of that post went right over a lot of your heads. 
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No, I understood it was sarcasm. And I also stand by what i wrote[/quote]

It is not petty or spiteful to expect a family member who is older and possibly lonely (is she a widow, OP?), to be treated with kindness and compassion.

And, yes, if you insist on “teaching” your MIL that her contributions are unwanted and that your time is so constrained that [b]you can’t spend five or ten minutes chatting with her,[/b] she will learn to stay away, and maybe get very busy with other activities and people. She will then be too busy to spend me with your family during the small amounts of time you are willing to allocate for her.

And then don’t come on DCUM complaining that the local grandparent can’t be bothered to help out your family, as many young parents have posted on here. You will have taught her a lesson and she will have learned it well. 
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How do you know it’s 5-10 minutes? Based on some of the responses here, I’d guess posters have family that will overstay.[/quote]

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