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[quote=Anonymous]So hard to understand why this is so difficult for some of you to get.

We are three sets of parents all of us very friendly, we meet at least once a month for dinners/lunches, celebrates, bdays togethers, belong to same club, etc.... We were planning a ski trip out west (adults only) one of the parents one night at dinner while we were planning,  said why don't we ask all the kids to join us. We all thought that sounded like a fun idea and asked them.

Between the three its a total of 10 kids all young adults- 30 yrs old.  They all wanted to go and almost all are skiers. They all know each other and have on some level or another been together before but are not "close" as is minimal socialization on their own. NOT that they do not like one another, they just have different lives.

The dynamic between my family and what I OBSERVED (I could be wrong) seemed different. Their adult kids seemed much more willing to go along with things (not all) than mine. My kids maybe didn't want to hang out with them on the slopes as my kids are all expert skiers (have skied all their life) and they did join in for some activities. But again 2 of the 3 had their SO with them. There were a few things they didn't want to do. One of my kids was slightly more cooperative to be fair.

It made me feel bad but as I have written out my thoughts and recollection of how things played out, I am realizing we are just different, we operate differently as families, and thats OK. Could my other 2 have been more cooperative? Yes, there was room for improvement to be sure. Was I annoyed with them as I viewed it to be selfish? Yes I did fair or not.I didn't like being put in the position of having to make excuses. By the end I just said X and X already made a plan to go work out at the gym, etc...

I also know I could have done things differently too. I could have outlined the schedule and made my expectations a bit clearer. Hindsights 20/20. At least we got in a some great skiing and I enjoyed the time with our friends.

I think family trips of this sort with other families however are not our jam. Lesson learned.[/quote]

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