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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Beyond telling your son he was rude you should have told him how ashamed you were by his callous ingratitude. You should tell him that someday when he's old enough to have enough life experience and maturity he'll feel shame when he thinks about what he did and you only hope his grandfather will still be alive to offer him the sincere apology he deserves. I don't think you son is as good a person as you assume. [/quote]
I think it’s a little extreme to say he’s “not a good person.” But I do think it’s a helpful incident for OP to reframe her understanding of her family’s wealth compared to her son’s. OP believes they are “not wealthy.” But her son has grown up with the perspective and outlook of a privileged, wealthy child- one who doesn’t understand the value of the fact he will never, ever be burdened with student loan debt and nor will his parents. There is a HUGE divide between how OP views their family and how her son was actually brought up- he has an entitled because … well, he IS entitled.

He’s probably not a bad person. But the moment is sticking with OP because it has highlighted her cognitive dissonance. She is NOT raising working or middle class kids who have an awareness of privilege and wealth and what that will do for their lives. She is raising privileged, wealthy northern Virginia kids who are acting as such. [/quote]

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