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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here — it is like walking through molasses. And I have an out of state childless relative and a parent who are counting in addition to DH and a struggling teen. Elderly Relative is in hospital, parent also out of state received cancer diagnosis — I’m spent. I’m not in good shape myself and tell NO ONE except DH. It won’t change anything about me not doing enough.

Anyway, regarding DH — he has been prescribed more antibiotics for ongoing UTIs. He is willing to go to a urologist but only if I handle everything. Meanwhile I’m dealing with hospital calls for relative, other relatives that are giving me grief re: my parent with whom I’ve tried many times to assist to improve the situation and avoid what has unfolded there. Why can’t adults frickin’ do what needs to be done???? Elderly relative who is cognitively sound (even by docs) is in hospital bc he stopped taking meds due to issues with side effects (frequent urination). The only reason DH is conceding to see the doc is bc he is VERY uncomfortable.

TL;DR No significant news.  [/quote]

I’m sorry OP.  They don’t call us the sandwich generation for no reason.  I agree that it’s so hard to be involved with adults who are incapable of taking any initiative for their own health for no reason.

At some point you have to drop the rope.  If someone is cognizant then there’s no reason for another adult to have to do any of the work for them.  Let your husband handle himself, you’re not his mom.  Let your relative who stopped taking his meds deal with the consequences of that decision.  And tell some friends what you’re going through.  Don’t just lean on your husband.  It’s easy for me to give this advice because I’m not the one walking in your shoes, but I’m also an objective opinion with no horse in this race and someone who has spent way too much time and energy trying to take care of people who don’t have any interest in taking care of themselves.[/quote]

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