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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the replies in this thread sound closer to OP’s tone than the posters realize or intend.  The vast majority of the posters here castigating OP for her whininess and self-absorption sound equally whiny and self-absorbed (you think YOU have it bad?  Well let me tell you about ME!  YOUR life is easy!).

Additionally, most of these posters seem as though they are just about boiling over with rage, which to me indicates that they are NOT handling their own lives as wonderfully as they would have OP believe.

Lashing out at random strangers on an anonymous mommy message board is not a healthy way to relieve stress, people.[/quote]

I don't get anyone boiling over with rage? [/quote]

Exactly. We're being dismissive and basically saying OP's feelings aren't valid. I realize that is the [b]WORST THING YOU COULD DO TO A MILLENNIAL [/b]-- invalidate feelings or whatever -- but it's truth. [/quote]

I mean… exhibit A?  Why are you so mad at millennials?  You clearly have some sort of unresolved stress/anger/rage/unhappiness yourself to post something like this.

[b]Everyone pushing back on my previous post is clearly triggered by it.  As the saying goes: “The truth hurts.  That’s how you know it’s true.”[/b][/quote]

"The fact that you disagree with me proves that what I said is true."  Fascinating logic.[/quote]

Actually it is a perfectly logical statement.  If some random person maligned your character or behavior in some way that you know is 100% untrue, you wouldn’t give the comment a second thought.  (Like water off a duck’s back, right?)  The fact that the comment makes you so angry and defensive means there’s some truth to it.  (Otherwise, why react to it at all, let alone defend yourself or insult the messenger?)

Remember, the first step to solving your problem is admitting that you have a problem!  You’re welcome.[/quote]

NP here - so in this little morality play, if the PP agrees with you, then obviously you are correct.  And if she disagrees with you, then she's triggered because your points are obviously accurate.  In other words, you have constructed a scenario where you are never incorrect.  Heads I win, tails you lose.  How very convenient for you.

But I think we all know that isn't the way things work.  And please note that I'm not opining on your actual statements, just the "logic," if one wants to stretch that term beyond recognition, that you are using.  [/quote]

Hey listen - there are lots of people who read my initial statement who disagreed with it and they’re not wrong.  But they’re not the ones raging at me.  I’m sorry that you don’t like or approve of reality, but in this particular instance I am correct and the PP’s increasingly angry and defensive responses do indeed prove it.

(And because you and PP both seem fairly dim, that means my initial statement was correct [b]about PP[/b] and she proved it by reacting so strongly and angrily to it.  The many other folks who disagree and for whom my initial statement does not apply ignored it, although I assume they are getting irritated by this absurd side conversation in which PP and you think (metaphorically) screaming I’M NOT MAD means that you’re not mad…. And this is not a scenario I have constructed, this is pretty foundational stuff in human psychology.  You both need a refresher course in logic 101.)[/quote]

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