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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Looks like someone is starting threads just to provoke a fight.[/quote]

She is frustrated, wanted support and isn't getting it. It's easy for us to say it's son's decision but emotionally she can't let it go.

That said, it really is son's decision. Son is a pushover probably because Mom has helicoptered all these years.[/quote]

Context. 22 year old kids tend to be pushovers in the context of a pushy parent just inviting themselves somewhere. It could be as passive-aggressive as randomly asking, "What is your degree going to be in?" That alone is enough info to look up ceremony on the college website and just show up. Or more direct, "When is your graduation ceremony?" Especially if the question is in person, and especially if DS is unprepared for it, it is unrealistic for most 22 year old kids to pushback and tell a deadbeat parent they are not wanted at the ceremony. That is not the same as a child actually inviting the parent nor does it mean they genuinely want the deadbeat parent there. It is a reflection of the discomfort in disinviting a pushy deadbeat parent inviting themselves. It is a dynamic a deadbeat will shamelessly take advantage of.[/quote]

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