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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I think you know you need to get your support elsewhere.

I think what is throwing posters off here is that you don't explicitly state malignant vs benign. It's your right to frame the question however you like with as much/little detail as you like but that is what is bringing out the anger/frustration in people here. I wonder if that is the issue with your husband- that he feels this is much hubbub about nothing.[/quote]

Malignant. It is cancer. I'm guess I'm struggling to understand why NOT saying that so specifically is so frustrating to people in this discussion.  I believe I shared enough of the health details to convey that this is a very serious situation **for me** but if someone here disagrees, feel free to ignore the whole thing. I guess I was hoping for more focus on the relationship part of my story and question. I appreciate the comments that have shared different perspectives around that and I have found many of them helpful in how I've been thinking about this.[/quote]

OP, I am sorry. With this added info- it helps me to confirm that I would be in the dumps with his lack of regard/concern/ability to support you. I'd try to tell myself he was scared too... or was feeling like a victim- instead of focusing on how YOU (in the center of this) feel, that he can only focus on himself. You may survive the treatment/the marriage until your kids are older, but you may not survive the marriage long-haul as it's hard to get the trust back. I hope you find someone else from whom to gain support.[/quote]

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