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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Young men like sex with hot young women, but what they *really* like is easy sex. I agree with PP who said that this is what's going on in most of these older woman/younger man relationships. There are probably some young men who prefer older women, maybe because older women are better in bed or maybe because they (the young men) enjoy feeling dominated/objectified...but they're the exceptions. Your typical twentysomething guy who's dating significantly older either can't get a woman his own age or doesn't feel like putting in the effort to do so.

It's funny how the ladies of DCUM assume that comical egotism is solely a guy thing. Listening to middle-aged divorcees talk about their love lives, it becomes clear that that's not the case. In general, middle-aged people of both genders seem to have very high opinions of themselves. I guess you have to deal with aging somehow.[/quote]

The younger men I've dated can all get women their own age. They're all attractive with good careers. They prefer older. I didn't believe it for a long time, but they've all given me their reasons: younger women are trashy, flaky, needy, greedy, and, let's face it, a GenX woman is less likely to be fat, anxious, depressed, sexually confused and just plain weird than a GenZ. A few wrinkles is nothing when you factor in all of that, and most successful 45-55 year old women have the money to spend to get rid of them. The younger men I've dated have waited months for sex and insist on paying for everything. As far as I know, none of them has gone on to date younger after dating me. [/quote]

Every time a thread like this pops up, it turns out that in addition to being Ivy-educated and worth $20m, the typical DCUM poster is 45 but looks twenty years younger and is dating a hot young trainer who worships her and is dynamite in the sack.

Look, we all do it. We all daydream about lives that are sexier, more exciting, and more flattering to our vanity than the lives we actually live. But a thread like this could actually be useful if people didn't clog it up with their fantasies.

The post above is a prime example. We've all heard about the problems that Gen Z women have, but when I'm out and about I see plenty who are pretty and presentable. The Gen Z nerds are the ones who have to either settle for the weird frumps or date older. The kind of guys the PP wants us to imagine her with are the ones who get to date the pretty, presentable women their own age -- and so that's what they do. The idea that a hot twentysomething guy is waiting *months* to have sex with a 45yo, in the meantime happily buying her dinner and listening to her talk about the latest gossip from the sixth-grade moms WhatsApp group -- when he could be with a hot twentysomething woman who will sleep with him on the third date...I'm sorry, I can't even type that with a straight face. And we're supposed to believe that the PP has experienced this *multiple* times, with "all" the young men she's dated? Man oh man, this is some of the most rank BS I've ever read on this site.

As I said before, middle-aged people of both genders really need to get their vanity under control. The men, sure...but the women, too. It's embarrassing.

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Well, my degrees are not from Ivys and I'm not worth anywhere close to 20 million. I'm also 48, not 45. I don't look twenty years younger than I am. I have no clue what age I look. It probably depends on who's looking. 
As for the men I date, yes, they do have sex with younger women. They tell me all about it. What do I care? They'll take me out and we'll spend time together and maybe we'll have sex one day. I always offer to pay, but they insist. I don't talk about mom gossip on dates. I don't have kids and most of my friends don't either. We talk about all sorts of things. They do spend a lot of time complaining about younger women though, which can get annoying. [/quote]

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