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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a 40 year old married mom of two early elmentary school age kids.  I want to make mom friends.  I've tried everything, and nothing works.  I've met a lot of moms, but none of them wants to be my friend.  How it usually goes is I'll meet a mom at a PTA volunteer event, or at a family-friendly event, or at a meetup group, chat for a bit, invite them out for coffee, and we meet for coffee.  The meetup usually goes well and then....crickets.  I never hear from them again and when I reach out a few weeks later to follow up and see how they're doing, I usually don't hear back or they'll be polite but distant, making it clear they're not interested in a friendship.

I don't know what I'm doing wrong to be so unlikeable.  I'm married (15 years), work full-time, have a really interesting career, am a good conversationalist, and try to get to know them/express interest.  Most of the time they don't seem that interested in getting to know me.  Like I'll ask, what are you guys doing this summer and they don't ask what we're doing, just blather on and on about their summer plans.

I work out at a small gym and that has not let to any friendships either.  I am also in a hobby group and also have not made friends that way.

The moms of my kids' friends have made it clear they are not interested in a friendship--they will bring their kids over for playdates when I set them up, but have never invited us and don't stay to chat, they just drop off and leave, or send their husbands to drop off.

Where can I meet mom friends or just friends for me?  My kids are in first and third grade.

I am chronically lonely and feel like no one likes me or wants to be my friend, and it really sucks.[/quote]

Hi OP, I am in the same boat. I have people I chat with at the athletic activity that I do, and people I chat with in the neighborhood at school drop off and pick up, but nobody is texting me to say hi, or inviting me out for drinks. I have friends from college/post-college that I see a few times/year, and maybe another social event 1-2x/year comes up.

I don't have any suggestions, really. Its hard when you work full time to make friends with SAHMs, just because they are free during the day when you are at work. Its also hard to make friends with other working moms bc we are all working. I'm also not the type to force my kid to hang out at the playground longer than they want to just so that I can make mom friends.

My answer? I just keep working on myself and doing what I want to do with my family, and it will all work out in the end. Or I will die lonely. One of the two.[/quote]

Ugh, we need to trade neighborhoods! Like where are all the SAHMs of young kids? Everyone seems to be working, or have kids that are way older than mine. I feel so lame meeting people through their nannies.[/quote]

Same here. I’m a SAHM and I never meet other SAHMs. It sucks. [/quote]

+2 This is very true.[/quote]

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